I like the I-ching for listening to the Universe to try and understand what the bigger picture is.
Sometimes it just doesn’t make sense how people behave or why you are being put in a situation.
Doing an I-ching reading can help you stop stressing and you can see what lesson you are meant to be learning.

The answer to your question, “who is the one with the problem?” is:

34. Ta Chuang – The Power of the Great

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— — above Chên The Arousing, Thunder
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—– below Ch’ien The Creative, Heaven
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Changing yang in the third place means:
The inferior man works through power.
The superior man does not act thus.
To continue is dangerous.
A goat butts against a hedge
And gets its horns entangled.

Changing yang in the fourth place means:
Perseverance brings good fortune.
Remorse disappears.
The hedge opens; there is no entanglement.
Power depends upon the axle of a big cart.

Changing yin in the fifth place means:
Loses the goat with ease.
No remorse.

Changing yin at the top means:
A goat butts against a hedge.
It cannot go backward, it cannot go forward.
Nothing serves to further.
If one notes the difficulty, this brings good fortune.

This reading helped to stop me worrying about things this morning and let me get on with my work. The goat being entangled stuff is great, e.g. The power struggles in relationships that can waste our time. “Power depends upon the axle of a big cart.” I think this means that people can be like two big wheels bumping into each other and they need an axle to harness the power positively. This could be starting a family or a joint creative project that both can independently put their initiative and effort into from their own side. Without something big like this to independently channel their energy into people can often just end up tripping over each other’s egos.